Guessing someone’s age

Posted on September 3, 2013

The media has distorted people’s perceptions of how old someone looks. That’s what I think. I’m always frustrated to watch shows about high school kids played by actors who are in their mid-20s. College students are portrayed by 30-somethings. Thus, when people meet normal sophomores in high school, they think the teen is in middle school. Or when they see a college senior, they think that person is still in high school. Maybe people ...

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Reflections on a birthday … and thinking about babies

Posted on September 2, 2013

Today was my birthday. I’m 27 now. I don’t know at what age people start to feel old. People make a big deal out of 30 … and then 40. Twenty-seven shouldn’t feel old. And I don’t feel old. All I know is that I wasn’t exactly happy to move up one digit. This was the first time in my life that my new age seemed to be worse than my previous one. I liked being 26. I think it has to do with kids. By the time I start having children, ...

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Save money: the best deals are off the beaten path

Posted on September 1, 2013

When looking for home décor, refurbished furniture, and antiques, the best deals are found away from the beaten path. Perhaps that’s a no-brainer. But that money-saving tip came alive for me today. My sister-in-law is a photographer, and her clients love her for many reasons, one being that she owns great props for them to use in photos. Through facebook group connections, she discovered a family that runs a store out of their home of all ...

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Some boys are not tough. Some boys do cry.

Posted on August 30, 2013

Some boys are not tough. Some boys do cry. – The words of a six-year old boy in my living room today. I was amazed by this first-grader’s honesty and his grasp that gender stereotypes are wrong. His dad was one of the contractors I hired to work on my house. I brought the boy inside for a few minutes while his dad checked on things. Right away the kid started crying and telling me he missed his mom. He admitted he gets to see his mom ...

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Be aware of PMS

Posted on August 28, 2013

Some days I think I need therapy. I cry and feel depressed and dwell on all the bad things about myself and my life. Then I remember what time the month it is. And I know things will get better in a few days. Lesson for today: Ladies, know about your cycle and how PMS affects you. Then tell your significant other about it. He needs to be aware. P.S. I've just started reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. I was on a birth control pill ...

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I told the monster to go to … @$#&!

Posted on August 27, 2013

I have a confession. Reading other people’s blogs make me feel like crap. They always have. At first I may appreciate their comments. Laugh at their wit. Think deeply about their words. But then my mind goes to that dark place. Why can’t you be thoughtful like that, Chansin? Why aren’t you living an amazing life like them and then writing about it? And I guess that’s the jealousy monster – or Satan – kicking in. It’s the monster ...

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Too much stuff

Posted on August 26, 2013

Lots of possessions make life more complicated. When I was young and living in my parents’ house, my dad constantly complained about my messiness. When he was being nice about it, he’d say, “Chansin, you’re such a good daughter… almost perfect … if only you could keep your room clean!” And then on his mean days he’d say, “You’re such a pig!” My dad is a perfectionist in cleanliness and organization. He’s got a huge ...

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My sermon at Heights Church

Posted on August 25, 2013

Breaking Rules for the Sake of Love ... On my second Sunday of serving as an intern at a church in Houston, I was asked to preach. The text from the lectionary was Luke 13:10-17. Instead of writing about all that I learned about it and what I spoke about in my sermon, how about I just link you to the podcast instead? Here it is.

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Save money: check out movies from the library

Posted on August 23, 2013

Who would’ve thought you could get dvds and blu-rays from the library? When I got married and moved to Brownsville, Texas I was stunned with how many great blu-rays were available. Many of them were recently released, too! The movie shelves were at the front of the library. There was no missing it. I wondered if their great selection of digital content maybe said something about the library’s priorities or about Brownsville’s literacy ...

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Don’t commute

Posted on August 22, 2013

I hate driving. What do I hate even more than driving? Driving for a long time. My husband and I moved to a Houston suburb two weeks ago. And now, for the first time in my life, I have to drive over 45 minutes to my workplace. I’m doing this because I know it’s only temporary. We are fixing up our house so we can sell it. I can endure anything for a few months. Or can’t I? Long commutes are bad for you. It’s proven. Research has shown ...

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Don’t water the lawn at night

Posted on August 21, 2013

I’m new to lawn maintenance. One reason I enjoyed being an apartment-dweller and renter was that I didn’t have to take care of grass. Lawn care was provided by the landlord in the two houses we’ve rented. But now we’re living in our own house, and I noticed the lawn is looking a little parched. I usually wouldn’t care very much and would let it die or go dormant or whatever, but we plan on trying to sell the house in a month or so. A ...

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Coffee or tea?

Posted on August 20, 2013

I don’t know about you, but when I drink coffee, I like it with sugar and cream. I especially like those artificially-sweetened creamers in flavors like snickerdoodle, hazelnut, French vanilla, or pumpkin spice. Yummmm. And the sugar? A spoonful please! I admire people who drink their coffee black. I just cannot do it. I only learned to like coffee in college. And I had to learn by starting with the extra-sugary lattes and Carmel Macchiatos ...

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Face-to-face matters

Posted on August 19, 2013

Looking directly at a person – face-to-face, one-one-one – matters. Digital connections are great, but there’s nothing like spending an hour sitting across a table with someone, looking into their eyes, and communicating. Let’s get coffee, became a mantra when I was in college. Everyone said it. I didn’t even like coffee at the time. But we all knew we needed to connect. And only face-to-face would do. I suppose people have interp...

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When the feelings aren’t there

Posted on August 18, 2013

Today I learned something about love. My pastor started his sermon in a predictable way. Love is more than a feeling. It’s about doing good for another. Yes, yes, I know that, pastor. He read the parable of the Good Samaritan – that man who did not pass by the beat-up, nearly dead guy on the side of the road. The religious people before him had continued to walk by. But the Samaritan stopped and took care of him. Yes, yes, I know that story, ...

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Best way to meet neighbors

Posted on August 17, 2013

When moving into a new neighborhood – or when someone new moves in next to you – what do you do? Perhaps you enjoy anonymity and prefer not to meet the neighbors. But I enjoy community and have dreams of actually making friends of my neighbors. It is hard to know where to start. I've gone months of living in a new neighborhood without knowing the names of the people who pass by on the street. I've come up with a good way to break the ...

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Why this blog?

Posted on August 16, 2013

There was a time that I dabbled in journalism. My favorite thing about it was the opportunity to learn. I did not care as much about crafting the story or getting a byline. I was most excited about researching and interviewing people, hearing their stories, and learning what makes life meaningful for them. In this blog, I want to share lessons I learn in my own life … from simple things like which kitchen storage containers I've found to ...

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